A guide for those who give so much
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The work of a caregiver may or may not be paid, but it requires caregivers to sacrifice some part of their lives selflessly to the needs of another, whether family member, relative, or a complete stranger. However, there is also another important aspect to caring and that is for caregivers themselves to be healthy and to feel supported in the work they do too. It is important to know that you, the caregiver, are not alone. Some professional help may be available, and this booklet aims to help in identifying what is out there. There will also be others who share or have shared your situation, who can be contacted through cancer charities’ websites or publications, helplines or forums, local caregiver groups or charities such as our own.
The needs of those who are being cared for may be anything between slight or occasional to constant and exhausting. Their need for care may be merely temporary or last the lifetime that is left to them. The scope of caring that may be called for can be as varied as all the illnesses found in a medical dictionary. However, the OPA Caregivers booklet is addressed principally to those caring for people who have problems arising from pre–cancerous conditions or diagnosed cancers of the oesophagus or stomach, and from the treatments that are needed or have been given. Oesophageal/gastric cancers are some of the most difficult cancers to treat, not only because a lengthy and complicated surgical operation is often the only remedy, but also because the cancer compromises the body’s access to nutrition and hence its long–term health and survival. This guide offers caregivers information on what a cancer patient with this condition will be going through, advice on how you can prepare to care for them and what will be involved.
The first inkling that something may be wrong could have been one or more new, unexplained or worrying sensations or symptoms, such as more frequent indigestion, pain and discomfort in the chest and/or stomach area, increasing difficulty in swallowing, frequent hiccups or choking, episodes of vomiting, loss of appetite and consequent weight loss. A visit to the GP should ideally result in an urgent hospital referral to see a consultant and an investigation via endoscopy.
If the tests confirm the possibility of oesophageal/gastric cancer and the patient whom you are caring for is a partner or a friend, you might expect their (and your) reaction to be one of shock. They might have questions about the cause, fear of the risk of cancer spreading, and anxiety over any delays in getting diagnosis and treatment. Inevitably, there will be worries about the future and about the effect on their family and their ability to continue working and, perhaps, on the financial consequences of a prolonged illness.
This is the time for you, as
partner and/or caregiver, to take the initiative in preparing questions for meetings with doctors and consultants, taking note of their answers and pursuing appointments and procedures. It is good practice to accompany the patient to these whenever possible, especially where courses of radiation and/or chemotherapy are prescribed before and possibly also after the surgery. It is also advisable to keep records of explanations given (in layman’s terms wherever possible), of tests taken and undertakings given, and follow up those results and actions. Furthermore, it would be a help at this early stage to try to gather information on resources available (advice, specialist help, financial support) from the GP and the hospital, as well as our own website and its booklets, especially ‘Guide to Life after Oesophageal/Gastric Surgery’, as this also explains what preparations may be undertaken prior to the operation. More recently, consultants have been stressing the important contribution that optimal physical and nutritional status prior to surgery can make to post–operative recovery. You can do your part to help with this.
Undergoing tests, or even a preparatory course of chemotherapy before the operation, may be a cause of anxiety, distress or discomfort such that you, as a prospective caregiver, might take up a more assertive role in family affairs and inform friends and relatives (or not), according to the patient’s wishes. It would be advisable at this early stage to plan what arrangements or adjustments will be needed for their and your own work commitments (job, family, finance) and for other dependents: children, elderly relatives, pets, etc. They may like to delegate or share some personal matters which they normally look after themselves and/or consider assigning one or more forms of Power of Attorney to you.
To prepare for the discharge from the hospital after the operation, you should be given a discharge assessment. This should involve a review of facilities in the home by the hospital and/or the local authority’s social services to ensure that there is the necessary equipment and space for the patient’s safe return as they may well be in severe pain, be weak, nauseated, depressed and dependent, requiring help in moving around, eating, washing and toileting, and sleeping. You will want to see that any extra seating, mobilising, bathing, toileting or sleeping aids needed are in place before they return. By then, you may have been able to gather information from the consultant, the Upper GI [gastro–intestinal] specialist nurse, the dietician, and the physiotherapist in the hospital, on likely recovery patterns, possible complications and dangers, who to contact in emergencies or when concerned, and how. Their discharge assessment should set out the dates for in–hospital follow–up appointments with all of the above specialists and advice on whether or when GP or District Nurse visits may take place. Their GP will have been informed of their discharge date. You are also entitled to a Carer’s Assessment from your local authority’s social services department, access to contacts, extra equipment you may need to deliver the care safely, financial assistance if you qualify, and eventually, possibly some respite care.
It would probably be helpful to introduce a gradual recovery regime for basic daily living activities, step by step according to their abilities and motivation. The principal effects of the operation for oesophageal or gastric cancer are likely to be changes in taste and smell sensations, loss of appetite and consequent weight loss (which are common reactions after any chemotherapy they may have had and which can also cause skin sensitivity). In any case, their fluids and food intake may be restricted, as the effects of the surgery may take weeks or even months to heal. Initially, the hospital will advise you about this. Naso–gastric tube feeding may be needed for some weeks and after that, very gradually, small amounts of solid food may be reintroduced. In view of the effect of surgery on the size of the remaining stomach area and the removal of an effective upper sphincter in the oesophagus, developing a habit of ‘grazing’ is usually recommended. This may mean anything up to six or seven small portions of food a day, as tolerated, rather than the customary three sit–down meals a day.


The OPA’s booklet ‘Swallowing – Nutrition when it’s Difficult’ gives advice on foods and some recipes for a variety of suitable dishes that may help with building up strength after the weight loss that usually occurs after this surgery. Because of the changes in diet, it is important to ensure that the patient continues to have regular blood tests after discharge, initially 1–2 months after surgery and later approximately every 6–12 months; as a general rule, dieticians have recommend FBC; Vitamin B12; Iron (Iron and iron bindings); Folate; Vitamin D; Zinc; and PEI (Pancreatic enzyme insufficiency) but as everyone’s outcome and progress will be different, it will be up to the doctors to decide eventually which blood tests are needed. These tests should then be reviewed by a dietician, Upper GI nurse or consultant.
Longer lasting effects of an oesophagectomy may include occasional or persistent ‘Dumping syndrome’ (see our leaflet ‘Dumping Syndrome and common problems after surgery‘). Symptoms occur after eating – a feeling of sweating, dizziness or nausea due to temporary insulin overproduction – vomiting, when too much food has been taken at once, malabsorption and diarrhoea (especially if the Vagus Nerve has been damaged during surgery), and general fatigue and depression. Sleeping patterns may be disturbed, especially as the patient will be adapted to sleep at a higher angle, with extra pillows and/or a wedge, in order to minimise acid or bile reflux. Regaining strength and returning to life as it was before the operation may take 12 to 18 months, and it will also be influenced by the ability to manage their pain and improve their mobility.
June Metcalfe: A day in the life of a Carer
We recommend that you keep a diary of progress

Useful websites and publications
Carersuk.org
This is the charity whose sole focus is advice and support for carers. Its principal publications are:
- Looking after Someone
- Being Heard: a self–advocacy guide for carers
Its website has several very helpful pages, such as:
Carersuk.org/upfront
Carersuk.org/localsupport
Carersuk.org/forum (for those who register as members)
Carersuk.org/needs–assessment (similar to benefits check, for the patient)
Carersuk.org/hospital (for when the patient is coming out of hospital)
Carersuk.org/break (for carers)
It also has its own Helpline and Online Forum
be.macmillan.org
This is the general portal to access all Macmillan’s publications and advice. Macmillan.org.uk also has its own support line, online community and support groups.
Its publications include:
- Understanding Oesophageal Cancer
- Looking after Someone with Cancer: A Guide for Carers
- Questions for Carers to ask about Work and Cancer
- Claiming Benefits when you have Cancer
- Help with the Cost of Cancer
- Life after Cancer Treatment
- Eating Problems and Cancer
- Working while Caring for Someone with Cancer
- Work and Cancer
- Self–employment and Cancer
- Your Rights at Work when you are Affected by Cancer
Cancerresearch.org
This leading UK charity funds world-class cancer research. Visit cruk.org for details on current and past studies, including those on oesophageal and gastric cancers. There’s also a chat forum at /cancerchat and info at /about-cancer.
Mariecurie.org.uk
This organisation and its specialist Marie Curie nurses provide care, guidance and support for people living with any terminal illness, and their carers. It also has its own support line, online community and chat service. Its publications include:
- Recently Diagnosed
- Living with a Terminal Illness
- Caring for Someone
- Benefits and Finances
- When Someone Dies
Ageuk.org.uk
Its website offers advice and publications on several issues of interest for caregivers, including:
- Financial support such as the Carer’s Allowance, the Attendance
- Allowance and Carer’s Credit
- Local authority assistance, and a Carer’s Assessment
Carers Direct
This is an NHS helpline on 0300 123 1053, for anyone needing help with their caring role, and with discovering what options are available to them. It covers ground similar to those publications and online sources found at CarersUK, Macmillan and Age UK.
Carers Trust
This is a charity that “works to improve support, services and recognition for anyone living with the challenges of caring, unpaid, for a family member or friend”. It offers online services, advice on possible grants and a network of independent partners who can assist carers “to get the extra help they need to live their own lives”.
If there are children in the family affected by a parent’s cancer, extra advice is available on the websites ‘cancer.org’ and ‘cancerresearchuk.org’ as well as on the Macmillan site.
Possibilities for financial support for carers
AgeUK – www.ageuk.org.uk/information-advice/care/helping-a-loved-one/financial-support
CarersUK – www.carersuk.org
GOV.UK’s – www.gov.uk/browse/benefits/help-for-carers
Carer’s Allowance
The eligibility rules are as follows. You need:
Carer’s Allowance may not be paid if you are receiving a State Pension or certain other benefits, but it’s still worth claiming because you could be eligible for extra Pension Credit and/or Housing Benefit. Extra conditions may apply if you are claiming Universal Credit.
How to claim Carer’s Allowance: visit GOV.UK to download a claim form or make a claim online, visit the websites of or seek advice from the charities named above.
The person for whom you are caring may be entitled to claim for an Attendance Allowance
This allowance is for those of State Pension age or older, with physical or mental disability, who need help with daily living and are not already in receipt of Disability Living Allowance [DLA] or Personal Independence Payment [PIP]. The allowance is tax free and not means tested and is available to all who are eligible, regardless of current income or savings.
To apply, the patient will have needed help for at least the previous six months or, if they are terminally ill, they can make a claim straight away. If they are awarded Attendance Allowance, they may become entitled to other benefits, such as Pension Credit, Housing Benefit, or Council Tax Reduction. As with the Carer’s Allowance, applicants will also need to satisfy UK presence and residence requirements.
AgeUK, CarersUK and GOV.UK websites offer a ‘Benefits Calculator’ which can give an idea of what amounts applicants may be eligible to receive.
Council Tax Discount
Unpaid caregivers get clearer eligibility info for Council Tax discount – 69 councils have improved their websites following a MoneySavingExpert.com (MSE) campaign. Yet it’s crucial for caregivers who thought they weren’t eligible due to councils’ misinformation to check again, to make sure they’re not missing out on vital support. Click here for more information.
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Looking after their personal affairs: some considerations for carers
If you are caring for someone to whom you are not related:
You should have at least one member of the patient’s family, or a friend, whom you can contact at any time to share information, with the patient’s permission, about their health or recovery, especially if they used to live alone. You should also know where to find their medical records and who to contact in the case of an emergency.
If you are on your own while giving care, you should know who else has access to the patient’s house, or who might call by, and what their relationship is to the person you are caring for.
If you are caring for someone who is (temporarily or long–term) incapacitated through surgery or illness, you may want, or need, to have them set up a Power of Attorney for you, or others, to manage their affairs, if they have not already done so.
There are three types of Power of Attorney:
In the legal jargon, the ‘Donor’ is the person ceding the Power, and the ‘Attorney’ is the person who is handed the Power. The ‘Attorney’ does not have to be a lawyer, but may be anyone over the age of 18 who is capable of making decisions.
Whichever Power is set up, it may be advisable to give a copy to a member of the patient’s family, if they have not done so, and to their GP, bank, lawyer or solicitor, and possibly also to their social services department and benefits agency.
An Ordinary Power of Attorney
An Ordinary Power of Attorney (OPA) is a legal document that allows someone (the donor) to appoint another person (the attorney) to make decisions on their behalf. This arrangement is typically used for a limited period and is not recommended if the donor is likely to lose mental capacity due to a progressive illness. It can be set up through a solicitor or with assistance from organisations like Citizens Advice.
See:
https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/family/looking-after-people/managing-affairs-for-someone-else/
A Lasting Power of Attorney
A Lasting Power of Attorney (LPA) is advisable when there’s a possibility of the donor’s mental capacity deteriorating.
There are two types:
- Property and Financial Affairs: Allows the attorney to make decisions about money and property for the donor.
- Health and Welfare: Enables the attorney to make decisions about the donor’s health and personal welfare.
LPAs must be registered with the Office of the Public Guardian (OPG) before they can be used. The registration process typically takes 8 to 10 weeks if there are no errors in the application. The registration fee is £92 per LPA . Before registration, the donor must notify certain individuals, and they have three weeks to raise any concerns.
Enduring Power of Attorney
Enduring Powers of Attorney (EPAs) could no longer be created after 1 October 2007, when they were replaced by Lasting Powers of Attorney (LPAs) under the Mental Capacity Act 2005. EPAs made before this date remain legally valid and may still be used and registered if the donor loses mental capacity.
A summary of basic principles around eating post–oesophagectomy
For more details see the OPA booklets ‘Swallowing and Nutrition when it’s Difficult’, and ‘Recipes for when Food is a Problem’.
- Eat regularly (usually small amounts, akin to ‘grazing’, even if you are not hungry).
- Eat what you can tolerate (even if not exactly healthy!).
- Chew well (restrict eating bread, at least initially).
- Favour dairy foods, if tolerated.
- Avoid takeaways!
- Use plastic cutlery if metal has an unpleasant taste.
- Avoid eating late at night.
- Sleep upright, or at least with a bed wedge.
A common problem:
Dumping Syndrome
Effects/sensations of Dumping Syndrome can be:
- Nausea and vomiting
- Abdominal cramps
- Diarrhoea
- Flushing/sweating
- Dizziness
- Increased pulse
Recommended steps:
- Increase intake of protein and fibre (wholegrain foods, meat and fish, eggs, nuts).
- Take small meals more frequently.
- Avoid drinking fluids 30 minutes before and 30 minutes after meals.
- Avoid simple sugars in food and drinks.
- Possibly avoid lactose, i.e, dairy products.
- Increase thickness of foods and drinks.
- Replace minerals after excessive diarrhoea, but avoid excessive use of loperamide to counteract it.
Advice on reducing excessive bile secretion (and vomiting): avoid or reduce intake of:
- Butter, margarine or mayonnaise
- Fried or breaded foods
- Pastries, especially flaky pastry
- Sausage, bacon and processed meats
- Full fat dairy produce
(Note that intake of some fats is essential, therefore substitute the above with avocados, oily fish, nuts, etc.) The above suggestions involve some trial and error; no two people who have this operation react in the same way when it comes to eating.











